Welcome to Newbie's first blog...

Who is Newbie? The surprise growing in my belly, of course. We chose to leave the sex of the baby a surprise until delivery, in order to rejoice in the thrill of "It's a ....!!!!"


We're open to guesses, tricks and old wives tales, tarot readings, anything but the sonogram that reveals the secrets of Newbie's nether regions.


Monday, March 30, 2009

But why...?

That is a question I often get when I tell people that we're planning on a natural childbirth for Newbie. "Why? when you have the option of NOT being in pain?" Either that or a "good luck" or a "more power to you, but that's crazy." Not EVERYONE is dubious of this choice, mind you, but maybe it begs some explanation.

No, it's not because I'm a no-drug, no-anesthesia loon. And no, it's not because I'm a bra-burning "I am woman hear me roar" type of gal (though after I go through it, I may become one, so watch out). It's a bit more complicated than that. It really comes from not wanting this birth experience to be a "medical" one and wanting it to be a "natural" one. Natural in the sense that this is a normal experience, not something that is a condition for which I need treatment.

But as we've been going through our Bradley Childbirth classes (and here's a link if you want to know about that: http://www.bradleybirth.com), I've also started to desire a level of consciousness of the experience. I believe that a natural birth will allow me to be PRESENT during the process. Yes, it will hurt. But I won't be hooked up to a monitor with an IV in my arm and a catheter both in my spine and in my nether regions. I will be able to move around. I'll be free. Who knows...I may get a bit of the animal instinct and do crazy things like squat or be on all fours.

Crazy? Hardly--it's how women have given birth for centuries until the medical profession decided that it was easier for THEM if a woman delivered a baby on her back. I think those doctors skipped out on their physics classes and have forgotten that gravity is actually a universal law. Being on your back is not likely to bring a baby DOWN. I learned that birthing chairs (they look like broad-bottomed toilets, but without the water bowl beneath) were common practice until the late 19th century. Take a look at this picture of a chair, a feature of a Science Museum in London. Hmm....sitting in a chair is awfully close to squatting--just easier on the legs.

But being PRESENT is something I also associate with yoga. Yoga is not about escaping the body, tuning out sensations, and just getting a workout (though I've been to some yoga classes done to rock music that would certainly make you think so). It's about tuning IN to the body, listening and feeling for sensations that might have another message associated. A good yoga practice should feel like cherishing your body as well as exploring its limits. With a natural birth, I feel there is more respect for the body and what it can do. Rather than conquering the body, numbing it from the waist down, I am willing to try to let my body conquer my mind.

Our choice has also been driven by where we've chosen to have the birth--a Birth Center, where certified nurse midwives manage all of the prenatal care and are the actual people delivering the baby. No "maternity ward" with shift-changes and doctors on and off call. But real women who only deliver babies for a living and who have lots of tricks up their sleeves for letting a birth happen. Here's an interesting fact--the true emergency c-section rate in the world is about 1 percent, whereas the c-section rate at the hospital where I would have given birth is 50-60 percent. I think I've just defined "medical intervention."

Okay...I'm ranting and I haven't even gone through this yet. I'll be the first to call myself a hypocrite if the experience goes south. But I guess I just wanted to clear the air on the whole "why natural" question.

6 comments:

Unknown said...

Well said! We will be giving birth at the same birth center in October, and as soon as I announce my pregnancy to friends & family on Wednesday, I might even want to link to your post because I think you said it very eloquently and accurately.

If you haven't had a chance to, and you are taking any days off before the birth and would like a good encouraging book, I am reading "Ina May's Guide to Childbirth" and I would 100% recommend it!!

btw, sorry for lurking. I found you when I was searching for others who might have given/are giving birth at the birth center...thanks for talking about it!

Sarah Greenman said...

This is lovely. Thank you for writing this. Its just gorgeous! Here's to a natural, peaceful labor and birth!

holarubia said...

Perfectly said! You nailed all the reasons we're going natural. Even if it "goes south" you should be proud for approaching the birth with such a healthy and clear-headed conviction to bringing newbie into the world NOT drugged-up. I'm also really looking forward to being able to eat and drink during labor (imagine that!). I'm so glad you have a great midwifery team!

Vivie Bear said...

amen sister! so glad to hear you took the bradley classes. you will do just fine! dont forget to bring your favorite relaxing music and Cari just reminded me...might i suggest the Thai Spring Rolls from Mai's afterwards? right down the street and simply fabulous! happy birthing mama! :)patti

Jack said...

I have to agree with my lovely wife - this is just beautiful! You and Ashley are going to have one fabulous birth!

Connie said...

Well said! If I had it to do over, I would love to use a birthing center. Also, so much better for baby. (not to mention, Dad!) Looking forward to baby pics soon. Connie